This is going to be a follow up on my last post. Hurting people. It's a big deal. We all do it. We all do it A LOT.
Here's something that a lot of us often forget: even if we don't mean to hurt someone, even if we don't know we're hurting someone, it's still not okay. I understand that our actions which cause pain aren't always intentional. But if someone does get hurt, maybe we should have acted differently.
I think a lot of us need to be more observant of the world around us. Rather than rushing around only worrying about ourselves and what's happening in our lives, we should slow down and be aware of the people around us. Our careless actions can easily hurt someone else if we aren't careful. We can be doing exactly what we think we're supposed to be doing, but if our choices impact other people, it is so easy to unintentionally hurt them.
Hurt can come in so many shapes and sizes. Including small things, like an off-handed comment about a bad hair day, jumping into someone's place in a group, taking someone's regularly appointed seat, anything really.
It's hard to apologize if you feel like you've done nothing wrong. Even harder if you don't know what it was that offended the other person. But maybe it is important that we do apologize for these things. Because maybe it's the best way of showing God's love for the world. If we can't own up for our actions, what kind of witness can we be?
I love sarcasm, but I have a variety of new people in my life that don't seem to pick up on it quickly. I've learned that I need to tone it down around them, because my words can easily be misinterpreted.
When somebody in your life is hurting, be careful with them. People are fragile. The things you say and do can have a lasting effect on them. True friends should be there in a time of need. They shouldn't force those who are hurting to be a certain way or act a certain way. We need to be aware of what the people in our lives are going through.
Tred lightly. A person's life can resemble broken glass. We don't want to crush the fragments. We should be there to pick them up and fuse them together.